Implicit in Buddhist compassion is a genuine awareness and deep acceptance of things as they truly are, painful as that may be. From this soil of clarity and connection, compassion is said to arise of itself.
– Allan Hunt Badiner
Paradox: when we are in the most pain, being here and now can seem like a disastrous place to hang out – who wants to hurt?! Yet until we are able to be present with what is, and how it is, and how we feel about what is, and what we think about what is – the chances of being anywhere else are poor indeed.
Very few of us have been taught to be “as is”. We’re actually taught to do almost the opposite. We are taught if we are in pain, or are uncomfortable, unhappy, angry or sad, that we should seek to distract ourselves from what is. We are encouraged to put a smile on our face, focus on the positive stuff, be grateful for the good things that we have.
Many of us are very good at dodging the “as is”.
If we can’t self medicate our pain away through distraction or herculean feats of “positivity thinking” we visit doctors, and therapists and pharmacies. We get diagnosed, we get medicated. We get analyzed. Sometimes we also self-medicate with alcohol, or other drugs, or food, or sex, or bad relationships, or shopping, or , or, or ….
Anywhere but here, dear.
You can’t heal what you can’t feel. There is only one cure for what ails us and that is learning to be fully present. Right here, right now is the place of healing and wise choices.
As is, is what bravery looks like. As is.