“Everything in the universe has a rhythm, everything dances. ”
― Maya Angelou
In order for an apology, an offer of amends, to genuinely occur, it must be predicated by mutuality, a willingness to be vulnerable and to receive another’s vulnerability. There must be a willingness to trust; to trust that its safe to offer an apology, to trust that the person offering the apology is sincere.
The person seeking amends must be prepared, the person receiving amends must equally be prepared. If it doesn't feel safe to offer an apology, then there's far less chance one will happen.
We often think of an apology as something we give or something we are given. In actual fact, good apologies are a breathtaking dance of mutual vulnerability and trust.
We cannot dance this dance alone. Amends are not a one person affair.